VFC Bible Study worksheet: 08-Mar-2015

Victoria Fellowship Church
International & Interdenominational
Bible Study Worksheet – March 8, 2015
Theme: Christian Maturity

Topic: Healthy sense of self-worth

Main Text: Romans 8:1-17

Key Verse: Romans 8:16 – “The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children.”


Psychologists tell us that our sense of self-worth is given to us by those who parented or nurtured us – that if they related to us well and valued us, then in time this is the way we come to think of ourselves. This concept is generally true, but it is not the entire truth. If it were the whole truth, it would mean that those who are unfortunate to have been poorly nurtured would never have a good sense of self-worth.

Regardless of our background, a mature Christian would have a healthy sense of self-worth. Now, let’s get this clear: The sense of self-worth we are talking about here is not an inflated ego that poses superiority to other people – we are warned against such thinking in Romans 12:3: “Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought…”. Rather, it is a deep conviction within that God values us and has a definite purpose for our existence. This sense of self-worth is not based on the opinion of those around us such as complimentary remarks about us.

Our key verse above, and other scriptures like Colossians 3:9-10 (“…you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self…” make a statement to the effect that something fundamental happens to us when we come to know Christ. Our sense of self-worth derives from an assimilation of this truth.

How is this sense of self-worth manifested in a Christian? In John 13 we read one of the most powerful statements on this topic: “Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God”. (John 13:3). What did He do as a result of this awareness? “… He took a towel and washed the disciples’ feet. The sense of self-worth made Him demonstrate true humility – quite the opposite of what the world would expect of a “high net-worth” individual. True humility flows from a strong sense of who we are in God – the consciousness that we come from God and we are going back to Him.

Those that lack a sense of self-worth are easily controlled or manipulated by others. They find themselves always having to organise their plans around other people. They cannot build a healthy intimate relationship with other people because they would end up acting, not from their own volition, but because they are pressured by others.

Discussion Questions:

1. Read John 13:3-4 How do we demonstrate the sense of self-worth expressed in humility without giving the impression that we are self-debasing and being “pushed around”?

2. Romans 12:3 warns against thinking of ourselves more highly than we ought. When does a sense of self-worth become an ego trip?


Father, give me an accurate view of how You see me, and grant me the grace to live with the sense of self-worth that derives from my relationship with You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

{Partly culled from January/February 1993 edition of Every Day With Jesus by Selwyn Hughes, used by permission of CWR}